I find it interesting how, in every other part of the world poly seems to be dominated by vegan hippy anarcho-socialists, but in the US it’s got this bizarre caliper brigade thing going on. I suspect it’s related to the fact that US ‘nerd’ culture seems to just be inherently more right-wing, certainly than the equivalent in the UK, for reasons I’m not sure I entirely grasp (apart from, I suppose, the fact that US culture just generally skews more right-wing than most of the Western world.)

This guy is literally the worst.

Getting serious about polyamory, as in cracking down on it, or as in setting up shared Google spreadsheets for organising it effectively?

Polyamory is still a smallish subculture, but it is already much more common than being gay or lesbian. Americans think that about 24 percent of people are gay or lesbian, but the true percentage is closer to 2 percent. Thus, among America’s 83 million Millennials, 24 million are sympathetic to poly ideals, 17 million have tried poly, and 4 million are currently poly—compared to 3 million who are gay/lesbian.

I love how they speak about the statistics of people in gay relationships, and then they talk about how many poly people there are, while referencing the previous paragraph. This is the shittiest fucking writing. I might have written this in an 8th grade essay on Shakespeare before revising it.

Poly people have to learn to manage their sexual jealousy, by minimizing it and/or eroticizing it.

Just going to casually reference cuckoldly in passing

Also, too many poly advocates do so much progressive virtue-signaling that they’re not seen as credible spokespeople by mainstream folks.

What ever do you mean, Geoff? What about those (((virtue signalers)))

Finally, there’s the intense social disapproval of polyamory, which is heavily stigmatized—more stigmatized in some ways than any sex, race, class, religion, political attitude, or sexual orientation. Conservative and religious people are especially hostile to polyamory. Poly also lacks the legal status of being a protected minority, so poly people can be denied housing, jobs, and child custody just for being poly. The political status of polyamory is comparable to that of homosexuality before the 1969 Stonewall riots that launched the gay rights movement.

Holy shit no. If you tell your male friends that you’re poly, they’ll probably just think of you as a player.

In my academic research and popular science books, I’ve argued that a lot of human behavior is driven (unconsciously) by mating effort—the drive to show off our mental traits and moral virtues to attract sexual partners. These are costly signals, and we only bother to display them when they can yield mating payoffs. Monogamous exclusivity reduces those incentives. As mating effort gives way to parenting effort, traditional married couples often get lazy about their intellectual, social, and political lives. By contrast, open relationships incentivize people to stay healthy, fit, creative, and funny, because they’re always in the mating market.

There’s nothing sexier than using the term “mating market”. I hope this dude’s wife divorces him because he can’t talk without sounding like a fengari.

Monogamous societies flourished. That’s no accident. It’s important to acknowledge that the only societies that have ever succeeded in becoming large-scale technological civilizations were the ones that adopted monogamous marriage as the gold standard for long-term pair bonds and family formation.

Notice how he words things like a student who didn’t study trying to be as vague as possible so the teacher doesn’t notice.

Maybe most importantly, monogamy reduced the ability of high-status males to monopolize women, and helped to equalize mating opportunities. This decreased violent competition among males. Jordan Peterson has been especially vocal about the sexual-egalitarian and violence-reduction benefits of monogamy.

Malberro man says cigarettes good for your health.

Many “Red Pill” guys in the Manosphere are terrified that polyamory will expand the sexual underclass of male incels, but they usually confuse polyamory with polygyny. Polygyny makes it harder for lower-mate-value men to find partners, but polyamory actually makes it easier, because these guys don’t have to be good enough to be a woman’s primary partner.

Doesn’t this contradict the previous statement about how poly forces you to improve? I mean what kind of low-self-esteem woman is going to date some guy who probably thinks wiping his ass is gay.

Also, as Steven Pinker has shown, aggression rates have already dropped a hundredfold in the last thousand years, and the state has gotten better at deterring violence with surveillance, police, courts, and jails. Some of the more neurotic polyamorists enjoy maximizing the “poly drama” in their lives, but it rarely leads to spousal homicide.

Going to follow up my casual defense of authoritarian bootlicking with a boomer joke about polyamory. I am extremely normal. What kind of audience are you going for with a boomer joke about polyamory?

The claim that “50 percent of marriages end in divorce” is overblown—the divorce rate is much lower among college-educated people who marry when they’re older than 24, who aren’t pregnant when they marry, who have decent jobs, and whose spouses are the same race and religion.

Is this supposed to be an overly narrow demographic or several demographics? Again with this shitty prose that would fail a fucking 8th grade essay contest

Just as polyamory can learn a lot from monogamous marriage traditions about how to sustain long-term, pronatalist pair-bonds, monogamous marriages can learn a lot from poly relationships about communication, honesty, jealousy-management, and how to keep the sexual spark alive.

This is like the 3rd time this article just glosses over something heinous. Pronatalism is a fucking dog whistle for the “sex bad. contraception sin.” crowd.

Care to give a summary for those of us too lazy to look it up and entitled enough to ask for one? :P