This is a lovely explaination, but circling back to the reason we’re even discussing it. I don’t want to play cool things. I want to strum my ukulele with a bunch of other people and feel like I’m part of something but not work too hard. I’ve memorized my favorite/most comfortable chord fingerings, and the most common progressions and that’s all I do.

I bake in the same way. I have a few recipes I like. The most deviation I do is halving or doubling. But the recipe is good so the food turns out fine.

There’s plenty of other stuff I’m a nerd about and I get deep into the weeds of tiny details with other people who care deeply.

You nailed it ok.

Worse than that, I don’t even really know how they relate to each other, I just know “key of C” means C, F, G. I actually even went so far as to write each major key progression down with my cheater chord pics.

If you look at “I didn’t have eggs” you’ll quickly figure out that very few people are learning chemistry from baking/cooking.

I memorized by rote the chord progressions in my favorite style of music. This does not mean I understand music theory at all.

That very much depends on the timing of the hormonal treatment. Transwomen treated with puberty blockers in their teens and estrogen dominant HRT after they reach the age of majority will have different bone structure than if they had gone through testosterone dominant puberty.

Obviously Krill Waves Radio.

https://youtu.be/GluZA66XSFM

A lot of accumulating pieces of luck. I started as a physical therapist, but burned out. A friend suggested a coding bootcamp where I made a new friend who used to be an occupational therapist. She got a job and then moved into digital accessibility (which we hadn’t really learned about but made sense with our backgrounds). Her workplace had an opening in accessibilty and they hired me, so I moved and that’s what I’ve been doing ~6 years.

I care that some one wants to insult me. My go to response for anything related to my mom is “sorry you had to find that out”.

abused by both their patients who lack the mental faculties to know what they’re doing and their workplaces

Oh theres a number of patients who are of fully aware of what they are doing who are happy to have a chance to abuse someone they see as below them (either because of classism or racism or sexism).

Five years feels like an excessively long time especially if someone had a one off due to illness, or a condition that is well managed medically. I wonder if there is an appeals process.

It seems to me that dinner and cocktail parties have really fallen out of favor. It makes since to me though. Both my spouse and I work, so neither of us can do the prep work to get our home ready and a meal ready in time to have guests. Hosting norms would also have me pay for the food or drinks which fine once in a blue moon, but not something I could do frequently. I’m one of my few friends with a space that would even make sense to host in, so I’d pretty much be the only one hosting, so the only one spending money. It quickly becomes something I don’t want to do.

There’s also a reduction in affordable third spaces. I get third spaces needing to make money, but it’s so expensive to go out with friends and just hang out.

What’s a pension?

“end up staying awake staring at the ceiling all night anyway.”

This is still better for you than not resting. There’s been a tumblr meme going around that the MythBusters and Deadliest Catch crossover episode showed that just laying down and closing your eyes even if you do not fall asleep resulted in huge gains in cognitive function over not resting.

I call it apartment gravity. The gravity in my apartment is just way way higher than the rest of the world. What can I do but sit or lay around.

I got a friend these as a gift, he really liked it.

Honestly lots of them grew up and realized that what they were doing wasn’t healthy for anyone including themselves. Neil Strauss wrote a second book detailing how PUA exacerbated his trauma and poor mental heath.

I think I have a lower threshold for saying “my friend” than for actually considering someone my friend. I think I have a lot of friendly acquaintances. People that I spend time with because we have some things in common (usually my hobby groups). Friends are the people that reach out to me, or that I reach out to for reasons outside of our initial reason for contact.

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