• @Sop@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    23•4 months ago

    I think most cis people don’t understand their own gender that well. If you’re trans you’re kind of forced to do research about gender to find a sense of your identity. Through this research you learn a lot about what gender entails.

    I don’t think a lot of cis people can even explain how they know they’re cis lol

      • @Sop@lemmy.blahaj.zone
        8•4 months ago

        That could mean a lot of things. Many people who say that don’t really know what gender entails and thus don’t notice in what ways gender impacts their life. I used to say it before I realised I am trans. It could also mean that you’re agender.

        • @grysbok@lemmy.sdf.orgEnglish
          3•4 months ago

          I’m agender and I’m confident I’m agender because I’m always a tad confused when someone refers to me as my assigned-at-birth/default gender. It just doesn’t click for me. No dysphoria, just confusion and a half beat of “oh! They mean me!”

    • LuckingFurker (Any/All)
      4•4 months ago

      I kinda wonder sometimes how many cis people actually are cis and just haven’t had a reason to confront it. Like, I thought I was for a long time so it’s not unreasonable to me that there are probably a lot more trans people than any of us think, they just don’t ever discover it 🤔

      • @Sop@lemmy.blahaj.zone
        2•4 months ago

        There are probably many people who live a cis life who would live a different life if they were completely free in choosing their gender and expression. There’s many barriers currently that prevent people from realising and/or accepting the fact that they’re trans.

        • LuckingFurker (Any/All)
          1•4 months ago

          A good starting point would be normalising questioning it and exploring it, and making it OK at the end to conclude that you are trans or you are cis, but that feels like a long way off

  • @TheRealLinga@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    17•4 months ago

    Cissy here!

    Im fortunate to have both worked in a trans/queer therapy place and have a trans child. As such I’ve learned about gender and man did it open up my mind to new possibilities. I feel more complete now that I have a better understanding of myself. I’m masculine, but it certainly fluctuates towards femininity sometimes depending on my mood. Life is complicated, and the more we know about ourselves the better off we are!

    • @AnarchistArtificer@slrpnk.netEnglish
      14•4 months ago

      This sticker feels more a joke at how trans people are so often spoken about, than a joke at cis people.

      But to try to answer your question more materially, sometimes I, an autistic person, make jokes along the lines of “neurotypical develop intense fixations on making excessive eye contact during conversation, and often become distressed if they are unable to”. That’s not much of a joke, but it’s enough to show what I mean. For me, part of the humour is that in reflecting the joke in a mirror, it highlights how the way that we talk about minority groups (such as autistic or trans people) is really weird and othering. This isn’t a “two wrongs make a right” thing, but more like using humor as a way to question societal norms.

      I think another aspect of these jokes is that they function as “ritual communication”, which is communication whose purpose is to build, maintain and shape communities, rather than actually communicating things between people. That’s probably a bad explanation because I’m not learned in communication studies, but basically, a big part of ritual communication is building bonds by people within the same group. So in the case of my autism joke, part of it is ritual communication that more or less says “you, my autistic friends who are the audience for this joke, are valid and valued as you are”. Something that’s coming to mind is the comedy trope of people saying “[bad thing], amirite?”. It’s not funny because there’s not a joke being told, but it can still serve a social function.