• @Diddlydee@feddit.uk
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    2 months ago

    Only in NY? Everyone knows that isn’t a question to be answered. It’s chit-chat, an opener. What’s happening? How are you? What’s popping? Not questions that need answers. You reply ‘not much’ and move on.

    • snooggums
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      352 months ago

      Fuck that, I will answer it if I want to. Yes, I know the socially acceptable pretend bullshit that is expected, but if they are going to ask I will be honest if I feel like it.

      Usually I don’t because they probably just do it because everyone else does, but it gets really old.

      • edric
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        112 months ago

        I unintentionally make people buffer when they say “How are you” and I just answer with “good” and don’t return the question. There’s usually a second of dead silence because they expect to get it back and answer. I’m not used to asking a rhetorical question as a greeting, and prefer to just just say Hi or Hey.

      • BlueFootedPetey
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        31 month ago

        Its not unacceptable at all. You are fine. It was a little unexpected sure, but hey at least now we are done with pleasantries and talking about something at least one of us cares about.

        To be clear, I am also not against pleasantries. They are called that for a reason .

    • @A_Very_Big_Fan@lemmy.world
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      162 months ago

      You’d think, right? But I have some customers that insist that I actually answer the question.

      They’ll walk up and say “hi! how are you?” and I’ll say “hello”… And then they’ll look me directly in the eyes and say again “how are you???” rather than telling me what they want so I can get them through the line.

      My usual response is to look at them like ಠ_ಠ and say “…I’m good? How are you?” to indirectly communicate to them that they’re being weird af. But one of these times I want to just trauma dump on these old ladies that do this shit and watch as they have no idea what to say, and hopefully make them feel awkward as I hold up the line to give them a genuine answer to the question they insisted I respond to.

      /rant

    • 74 183.84
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      52 months ago

      Yeah well people from NY think they are special. So to them, this is an only them thing I suppose

  • MentalEdge
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    In Finland, if you ask “miten menee” (how is it going) you’ll either get to hear someone’s life story, or a single word reply “menee” (it’s going) which amounts to “I don’t want to talk about it”. But the assumption is that the person asking is up to exchange a few genuine sentences.

    Or, if someone is having a genuinely good day, you might get a few sentences explaining why things are looking up.

    Hence, most people will go with literally neutral statements. An example, my go-to farewell is “päivänjatkoa” which is literally just “may the day continue”.

  • MrScottyTay
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    122 months ago

    This is a very common dialect thing. Like in the UK, especially the North east “you alright?” Or just “alright?” is just a simple greeting that is often also just repeated in response.

    • Same thing here in Texas “How you doin?” “Doin alright how bout yourself?”

      Then yall just pass by each other and keep walking.

      Never thought about it until now but it is kinda funny to just leave a random question hanging in the air that both people know ain’t getting answered lol.

      • @OldManBOMBIN@lemmy.world
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        22 months ago

        Oh yeah, we do the “How bout yourself” too sometimes, now that I think about it. And occasionally you’ll get a “Doin alright” but it’s all pretty standard stuff.

    • Darren
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      52 months ago

      And the UK as a whole.

      “Alright mate?”

      “Yeah, you?”

      “Yeah”

      • fin.
  • BlueFootedPetey
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    31 month ago

    Only in NY do we use a character from a NJ outfit as our own.

    Shoulda been a Tribbiani.

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        1 month ago

        Philly boy. Yous? Edit: I see I used “we” . That was meant to mimic the OP, not imply Im from NY. Second Edit: op did have “we” either, guess I was typing from a pretend NYer perspective.

  • Kane
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    21 month ago

    So, I work with New Yorkers and this happens all the time lol. How should I respond to this in a proper way then lol, it feels odd to respond with the same question :P