Develop into your own beautiful human, first. A lot of dudes are mid at best; myself included

  • Track_ShovelOP
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    422 months ago

    It’s because societal norms don’t teach boys and men the proper way to deal with emotions. It’s more implied we will be fine or know how to deal with them, and generally not a lot of room for guys to explore them.

    There’s also a push for guys to be competitive, achieve, etc. which conditions us to seek more of the positive emotions that come with ‘victory’. That thinking quickly can become an echo chamber inside your head, with all kinds of negative things associated with it; the least of which is ‘I am worthless unless I achieve’.

    The world would be a much better place if guys were in tune with their inner feelings, knew how to deal with them, and weren’t terrified of being vulnerable around others. This also applies to women, but from my vantage point, to a lesser degree

    • @kofe@lemmy.world
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      102 months ago

      Yeah, if you know a anyone that can’t just spontaneously cry when they’re hurt, that’s a major indicator they’ve been abused. We evolved tear ducts for a reason. Crying let’s others see we need comfort. Everyone deserves that.