Not asking about achievements in work/love/health/etc. but about your esence as a person. Like how you wish people would describe you.
I want to be me, I am me, I’d say it’s going well.
Good question. Lots of interesting answers here.
Physically im not as fit as I’d like. I want to look like a roider but I dont want to roid. My ideal build is the guy in the gas mask leaning on the gate. I’d like to be someone who dresses nice and puts effort into looking good but I’m just not that guy no matter how much I want to be.
Organisation wise I’m significantly behind. I want to on top of everything, having a plan for the next 6 months buying gifts ahead of time, making lunch for work every day. But I’m battling to get the rubbish out each week and missing any event I’m not directly reminded about. I cant plan to save my life I cant even follow cooking instructions.
Mentally im close to where i want to be. I’m generally pretty content which is my biggest problem I don’t feel the need to go do uncomfortable things. People say im smart but they have low/no expertise so its not satisfying they don’t that im far away from where i want to be. One day I’d like to be at the point where someone i lookup to is impressed with my work.
It’s a hard question because i have no idea how others view me. It’s hard for me to understand others. all I can do is put my thoughts in their body and then evaluate myself only using what i know they know. When people speak of me it’s a completely unrecognisable person to me.
I want to be a somewhat competent human. I am not even close to achieving that.
I’m pretty close to being who I can bother to be. I should be better at visiting family, I should be better at talking to my friends, but anything involving people exhausts me.
I don’t want people to have glowing opinions or me or even be overly impressed. What I do want them to describe me with is that I cared. Maybe not for them, but in general. “He’s quiet and detached, but his actions showed he cares in his own way.”
I spend time around holidays creating little gifts for my dentist, doctor’s office, co-workers, and other places I visit. Why? Partly because I want to make a difference. I want to make an impact. Did my little gift brighten someone’s day? If it did then it was worth it. If it didn’t then better luck next year.
A selfish part of me wants it to be an expectation. That if I ever die or move on they might wonder why I stopped. That I might be remembered for it. I guess it’s just my way to leave my mark on the lives of those around me.
Hm, I want to be the stoic guy who is reliable. I think with the reliability I’m quite close, the stoicism - hm - yeah depending on how close something is I sometimes get really affected and can’t stay stoic, so still some work to be done.
I just want to be authentically me, and I think im pretty good at that :3
I want to be me. I am here. People should describe me carefully.
I want to be free from social expectations of who I should be.
I never wanted to be anything, and I was exceptionally successful at that so far. :/
I guess I always thought of myself as someone who never gives up. It’s a blessing and a curse, I’ve achieved all my goals in life so far but I can be perceived as someone who is not very empathetic - because I tend to expect others to have the same attitude and don’t give them the support they need.
Hopefully on the whole people can understand things from my perspective - but I’m too self reliant to care what others think most of the time…
Wise and kind! It’s an eternal WIP but there have definitely been some developments, especially regarding my mental health and ideology/understandings, and overall maturity… I think my neurodivergence, combined with childhood trauma, created some hills I had to climb, and it has also shaped me irreversibly, but I find I have enough free will to make accumulating changes.
My family and friends often come to me either to have a shoulder to cry on or for advice, even my co-workers (some of them are my friends now as well) will open up, expecting what my vibes are selling, I guess, and I always find it endearing (couple of times it’s been shocking and kinda made me panic as in “what do I say here?!” but that’s how it goes sometimes). I think people find me at least reliable and understanding (which does not discount me being weird AF in some areas,sometimes annoying or even, rarely, hurtful, and that’s the whole package), which is not bad already.
I am, by nature, a naive and eager person. I am also on the autism spectrum
I have spent my entire life trying to feel included, trying to see the best in people and yearning for friends and good times
I’ve used my weird sense of humor, my hyper spirit, and my childlike energy, at about as late as the age of 23, to try to amuse others. And for a bit maybe I did
But now, I wish to be different. I wish to be reserved, more brooding for a change. I wish I could be less chipper and SpongeBobesque, because it’s done nothing but embarrass or hurt me
I’m turning 25 now, growing out my first beard. It’s been a couple of years since I abruptly stopped acting that way. Life feels dull now, but I still feel like if I can just prove to the world that I’m not weak and childlike, then maybe I can win in some small way
Reads very similar to me. I’m mid 30s and still a kid, dont really care what others think, I’m not gonna be a boring ass adult. Lost a lot of friends due to them bring boring as shit and ignoring me. Not a big deal, I make more friends.
(Note that this doesnt mean being irresponsible and immature. I mean not giving in to having a TV in my bedroom so I can watch football and the news all day after work then sleep, and never do anything else. No thanks. )
I also can’t grow a beard lol.
You do you but dont change yourself because you think its wrong. Unless that makes you happy.
I’ll never be a football guy that’s for sure. But yeah I’m still trying to figure myself out. Nothing wrong with eccentric maturity I suppose. Still be a silly little shit but don’t overdo it?
People also used to make fun of me for being goofy and autistic, still do, and I don’t really give a shit now.
Like I said you be you, maybe if you feel like changing it up see how you like it but dont force yourself to be a dark brooding person if thats not you at all. Just my opinion
Life feels dull now, but I still feel like if I can just prove to the world that I’m not weak and childlike, then maybe I can win in some small way
You’ll discover in the years ahead that the secret is not caring what the world thinks. You don’t need to prove to the world anything. You can find yourself, decide what values are important to you, and then live your live according to your definition of whats right. When people say “be true to yourself” this is what they’re talking about.
There’s a step beyond this too. When you know whats important to you, you make a real evaluation of who you are and what you do. You decide if your actions and behaviors match your values. If not, you work to make improvements in yourself. You do it because its important to you and not someone else. Improvements like these can be difficult adopt. You don’t have to do it all overnight. Some improvements aren’t a one-and-done but rather a way of living. I’m positive I’ll go to my grave continuing to try to be a better version of myself, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Each day take the action that, at the end of each day, makes you proud of yourself. The race is long, but only ever against the old version of yourself.
Want to be a person accredited to the creation of european federalization/unity, known for being a true statesmen. I come from poverty and i know i wont have it easy bc of boomer politicians and the political dynasties, but i wont be demoralized just because the odds are against me. Spite is hell of a motivator!
VOLT is small, and with nationalists, fascists and even nazis being ever more a present and threat to democracy and peace in europe ever since 1950, and conservatives flirting with them like its the 1920s/30s it seems we are still faar from it but have to first defend/regain our sovereignity and democracy. But the idea of european federalism is growing.
No one is stopping me from becoming a different person if I wanted to so the fact that I’m not taking dramatic steps to change indicates that I’m probably roughly where I want to be.
I do admire people like Andrew Camarata for their work ethic, but again - nothing is stopping me from doing the same, yet I don’t, so maybe I just want the results, not what it actually takes to get there.
My role model is Snufkin character from the Moomin cartoon/anime. A quiet, humble, independent professional.
