I’ve been using Signal for many years now, and it fulfils most of my messaging needs. But last year’s AWS outage, which took it offline for almost a day, showed one of its many flaws: Signal is highly centralised and reliant on big tech infrastructure.
I was therefore wondering if I shouldn’t start self-hosting my own messaging infrastructure - maybe not for my day-to-day needs, but as an emergency fallback for my closest friends and family, should Signal fail again or become unavailable or compromised (looking at you, EU Chat Control!).
My first thought was to self-host my own Matrix/Synapse server, which ticks a lot of boxes for me: end-to-end encryption, media sharing (pics, audio, videos, all that good stuff), high availability of mobile clients with modern UIs, potentially even audio/video calls. The latter is still giving me a headache since apparently, I need a TURN server to get this working properly, and I’m somewhat reluctant to open so many ports just for it to work…
What’s your perspective on self-hosting messengers: which ones do you prefer? What is your primary motivation to do it? And how have you set it up?
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This thread is making me wish it was easier to host Signal and that you didn’t have to compile your own clients.
Have you looked at all into Meshtastic? Depending on where you are, it may work quite well for local communications
Simplex chat looks interesting although I don’t use it
I would recommend that you use what the people around you use
If you choose to go with Matrix, I would strongly recommend you to give the Continuwuity server a try. It is quite simple to install, much less resource-intensive than the commonly-used Synapse, and has an active community behind it.
apparently, I need a TURN server to get this working properly
Do note, Matrix recently has a new calling stack called MatrixRTC, and for that you would be setting up LiveKit in place of a TURN server. That also opens many ports by default, but I think there is a “UDP mux” mode that listens all on one port. I’ll be looking into it soon.
The other alternative is XMPP, which is a bit more complex to set up (more ports and subdomains, non-HTTP protocol etc) but is generally more lightweight and fast. ejabberd is my choice, but people tend to like Prosody and Snikket as well. While they use the traditional TURN servers for calls, their clients could use a lot of improvements though…
So yeah, my Continuwuity and the XMPP server sits on a small homelab machine, and with some extra tuning and grit, they work well. LiveKit and TURN sits on a VPS for better network performance. To be honest, I do all of this mainly because I wanna talk to cool people on the internet, so the service has to be federatable.
Self-hosted messaging was solved decades ago, it’s called XMPP or Jabber depending on who do you ask. There are a number of services for it, such as Prosody or ejabberd, and there are both client apps (eg.: Conversations for Android, Gajim or Dino for PC) and a number of webclients (such as converse.js which can actually be shipped via a ejabberd install).
That said you could just set up an alternative Signal client that allows for custom servers, since the centralization of Signal only really exists at the level of the client only connecting to Signal’s servers… Signal’s people have pointed this out themselves, when offering bridge setups so that people could connect from Iran or other countries where those countries blocked Signal’s endpoints.
I unfortunately wouldn’t call it solved. I host XMPP and Matrix, (and a STUN/TURN server, and a Livekit server for the modern matrix calls…), and nothing is perfect.
Prosody is really great because it’s so no-nonsense. It doesn’t hog resources or choke up like matrix servers do if you suggest to them that maybe they could deliver this text message? :3 Oh, no, it’s “hold for 2 weeks despite the recipient being online” again? Ok…
But XMPP is still incredibly hard to recommend for me, because
- no way to read old chats on new devices, which honestly is close to a deal-breaker for many people, myself inclided. And
- apart from maybe monocles on android, the clients just suck ass. They’re bad. Their UI/UX is stuck 20 years ago, and that does matter.
Hence why I still mostly use Matrix… Even though it’s such a stupid, stupid protocol.
@smiletolerantly @lambalicious “no way to read old chats on new devices,”
If you’re talking about unencrypted messages, then prosody’s mod_mam (https://prosody.im/doc/modules/mod/_mam) will store messages for a configurable amount of time and allow all devices to sync older messages.
If you’re talking about encrypted messages, you have two choices. OMEMO is the standard means for encrypting XMPP messages, & only works in forward mode; you can’t decrypt old messages. OpenPGP, however, decrypts old msgs.
Yes, encrypted (otherwise what’s the point? 😄). I’ll admit I haven’t tried the PGP version yet. How’s client support? For OMEMO it’s pretty lackluster, from what I’ve heard not much different for PGP?
In any case, perfect forward secrecy is definitely a good thing / strength, but I’d like a way to re-encrypt messages from an old device, just as an example, during the setup process; or a standardized way to export all history; or just something beyond “either use worse or no encryption, or loose access to your history eventually”.
@smiletolerantly @lambalicious tbh though, I’ve never used openpgp with xmpp because I prefer OMEMO’s forward secrecy. Transferring/introducing a new device, I usually back up chats on the old/current device and import it into the new device’s client.
I have literally never heard anyone mention xmpp outside of Lemmy. Anyways it is a dead technology due to how fragmented it is along with its reliance on XML
+1 for prosody. But you’ll still probably need a turnserver for calls, won’t you?
I’m unsure what’s the progress status over there so I’ll say “yes?”.
Which reminds me, I think there is a binding somewhere that lets XMPP send SMS messages, but dunno how if any is that related to phone call compatible audio.
I also self-host a messaging service. My infrastructure is a homing pigeon coop.
/uj I like your question and couldn’t contribute technically, so hope you get a laugh
Matrix is the most popular one these days, and it’s worth considering just for that reason, but it is also extremely buggy and slow. I can’t tell you how many timed I’ve been booted and locked out of my own account, or someone sends me a message, only to receive “message cannot be decrypted” error.
If you’re starting something new that you’re bringing other people to, I’d very much recommend DeltaChat/ArcaneChat (chatmail). It’s been far more reliable and easier to use.
I’ve never used XMPP because all of the clients are extremely dated.
Conversations for Android and gajim are fantastic XMPP clients and very modern.
I don’t agree at all.
What is it missing? When was the last time you tried them?
Conversations was updated was 14 days ago
Getting updates doesn’t make it modern.
I’ve never used XMPP because all of the clients are extremely dated.
This is what I was referring to.
Did you mean something else?
Dated as in features and appearance
1 - great username, 2 - I no longer have these issues with my setup, been running for 5 years now (but an update seems to have broken Element Call
Well, I’m happy for you, but I am currently locked out of my account. All of my devices were booted for some reason and now it’s not accepting my encryption key that I’ve been using for years to get back in, and I can’t use another device to verify, because they were all booted simultaneously.
Matrix/Synapse is pretty easy to set up… the encryption is a bit on the kludgy side, but it definitely works… I run it over a cloudflare tunnel (inbound) and perm-VPN tunnel (outbound)
I can give you a sample docker-compose file I use if you’d like. ;-)
Thank you so much for your offer! I’ve actually set it up last night and it’s running fine so far. It’s just that it won’t relay any calls if either of the devices is not on my network. Tunneling back into the network via VPN might be an option, but make it more cumbersome to use for some of the less techy folks around me.
What’s your primary reason to self-host Synapse? And who do you use it with?
Getting off corporate messaging…I use it for family and friends, people I know personally… But it is fully federated so I can get to some of the groups and such… matrix community servers and the like. :)
Mostly I started investigating it when Discord started talking about age-verification… Figured it was a good idea to have an exit strategy…
Looking at self-hosting I would rather go with chatmail, part of the deltachat ecosystem. Contrary to others the account doesn’t live on the server but on devices: a server going down merely affects connectivity, not the whole identity. Moreover servers are made to be redundant such that messages can transit through pretty much any of them. So when one goes down the app switches to another one and the downtime is invisible
Acronyms, initialisms, abbreviations, contractions, and other phrases which expand to something larger, that I’ve seen in this thread:
Fewer Letters More Letters Git Popular version control system, primarily for code LXC Linux Containers UDP User Datagram Protocol, for real-time communications VPN Virtual Private Network VPS Virtual Private Server (opposed to shared hosting) XMPP Extensible Messaging and Presence Protocol (‘Jabber’) for open instant messaging
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I prefer XMPP, its very simple unlike Matrix and I set up a prosody server.
The answer is always matrix (it has bridges) and a couple people say XMPP.
If you’re going with Matrix, consider looking at Synapse alternatives. Synapse is by a huge margin the heaviest of the backends to run and it doesn’t really get you anything extra.
introducing:
- dendrite: basically dead
- conduit: slow development, still beta
- conduwuit: dead fork of conduit
- tuwunel: active fork of conduwuit
- continuwuity: another active fork of conduwuit
- conduwuit: dead fork of conduit
Stuck in this software development hell of silly little projects.
@benno Meanwhile Prosody remains awesome, and the Snikket fork makes it even better.
Snikket is more like a distribution than a fork. It’s basically prosody with plugins and and configs.
Any recommendations?
I used this to simplify the matrix server setup: https://github.com/spantaleev/matrix-docker-ansible-deploy For the client I’ve been loving: https://git.sable.moe/SableClient/sable-next But there are lots: https://matrix.org/ecosystem/clients/
A friend hosts an IRC server that I use along with a bunch of other mates for a lot of our comms. Works really well and is wonderfully lightweight without any extra bells and whistles that we don’t care for.
