It’s strange to me that this would be news to anyone. That said, as someone who has had so many wild experiences all alone, I eventually had the epiphany that none of it matters if you have noone to share it with.
I am several decades old and I still have to remind myself I’m allowed to go have fun by myself.
The restaurant one makes sense. Don’t wanna get your food poisoned when you need to walk away to use the bathroom.
I don’t go places with people for social validation. I do it because doing those things by myself is incredibly boring.
There’s nothing stopping you from asking another adult from taking a picture of you without your phone held up in the middle of it like a caveman brandishing the first burning branch.
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I always see movies alone. Preferably early in the day in a deserted theatre if possible. Movies are very much a ‘me time’ activity. I go at least twice a week with my unlimited movie pass.
It’s just not needed to drag someone else along, especially if they aren’t as interested in the movie to begin with.
I know it’s the wrong take, but I read this as “Spend money you lonely bastard. Don’t address your problems, consume.”
Yep, you’re right it is the wrong take. I would suggest a little inward thought as this seems like a pretty toxic thought pattern.
On the other hand, I’m autistic and have no frame of reference for some of the things I want to do. How can I just show somewhere alone without knowing the social norms?
I go to restaurants, concerts and other shit by myself all the time. I go some Sporting events by myself, even out of town. In fact, I’m going to take a nostalgia road trip and watch an indoor soccer match.
As long as you aren’t talking to yourself loudly in the theater or eating popcorn at a volume comparable to the Dolby, literally nobody will fucking care. In both cases, the solution is to close your god damned mouth.
Most people aren’t paying any attention to you at all. Unless you’re being loud or making a lot of quick movements they probably don’t even notice you beyond the generic recognition that another person is present.
One of my first jobs was at a movie theater, back when you had to physically splice film reels together. Doing so meant you had to watch the whole thing for quality assurance…so I saw every new film at 0300 in an empty theater and it was fantastic. Going to a movie with other people around feels weird and cramped
How I saw all the lotr films
Come to Japan. Here, they have all sorts of seating at places specifically for people to be alone.
You’re making me want to book that plane ticket even more. The main thing I’m struggling with is deciding where I would go. If you don’t mind me asking, any favorite locations or cities?
Sure! I’ll go with what my friends recommended as well, since I haven’t travelled to all of the locations I want to go yet. Tōkyō is of course pretty bustling, and has a lot. Kyōto, Ōsaka, and Nara (i.e. the Kansai region) are all close to one another, so it’s a good area to visit and sightsee. Although, it can get incredibly crowded with tourists. Other places people mention they like are Sapporo in Hokkaidō, and maybe Fukuoka in Kyūshū. Also, what the other commenter mentioned is good advice. Feel free to PM me if you have any other questions.
Tokyo obviously, but the dotonburi (spelling?) market of Osaka is a must see. I’d also recommend Nintendo land at universal studios if you grew up in the 90s with those games, it’s incredible. And in terms of “plan before you buy the tickets” the Miyazaki museum is sold out months in advance, so many people will try to a reservation there before getting flights and hotels if they’re fans.
Aside from that, the deer in Nara are pretty special and it’s just a day trip from Osaka. And if you’re in the mood for something somber but incredible, Hiroshima is beautiful and the museum is incredible.
Advice I’ve given my wife and my kids. Never make plans with anyone to do anything that you aren’t happy to do alone.
Dinner? I’ll eat alone
Movie? I’ll watch it alone
Wife isn’t in the mood? I’ll just lay in bed and beat it next to her.
Hiking trip? Alone in nature is great.
Worst case scenario you still get to go have fun. Middle case, next time that person asks about doing something you get to remind them about all the fun you had without them.
One of these things is not like the others
Yeah, hiking is the only one done out in nature.
But is it?
Secluded nature wank
Is the secluded bit a requirement???
For me it’s a preference.
When you nature wank alone, you wank with Hitler.
Some hikes shouldn’t be done alone.
Also this seems like it’s gearing you towards selfish thinking which can set you up to be more isolated and lonely as a person.
I gear towards joining in things that others I like the company of want to do. I get to hang out with them while doing some activity, and they get to enjoy that activity. Of course, if I’m going to invite someone to something, it’s most often going to be something I can enjoy myself. If it requires others I just check with my friends on who’s interested and do followups with them to reduce barriers and increase their chances of making it.
That sounds like gearing yourself towards needing the validation of others to enjoy anything.
I’m not saying always do things alone, I’m saying make plans with the knowledge that the other participants might not show up. I’m not going to plan something that is reliant on others to happen, others could be there or might not, I’ll still go on the activity
So you never make plans you aren’t happy to do alone just to make your loved one’s day? Like I’m not crazy about X band, but my husband loves them, so getting tickets and taking him is something I do for him. But I’d never go to that alone.
Eh, went to my first concert by myself. Lost my spot when I had to pee and got to watch my favorite band from side stage.
there is literally nothing stopping you.
Except my obligations. I’m a parent with kids, so if I want to go somewhere alone, I need to get my SO on board and/or get a babysitter.
I know this is targeted at single people, but single people also have obligations and preferences that stop them from doing things alone.
Sorry, but nobody asked - that is a completely unrelated issue. It’s not about not having time.
The point of this post is that if you have no one to accompany you somewhere, you can just go alone, nobody cares - only you.
Sure, and that’s a given, no?
My point is that if someone isn’t doing something things alone, they don’t necessarily feel awkward, they could have other reasons to not go, and saying “but I have no-one to go with” may just be a socially acceptable excuse that they use to hide the real reason they don’t want to go.
Your point is not related to the subject at all. What do you not understand? The person in the screenshot does not address you or your like, they address specifically people not going places alone for fear of people looking odd at them, even though nobody cares.
You’re not in the picture, get over it.
Normalise not finding exceptions to every single fuckin thing people say on the internet
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Ok, breeder
I’m married and eat alone regularly on work trips.
As do I. I guess it has never been a big deal to me?
”I’m gonna go watch this movie you don’t care about”
“Cool”
“Bye”
It’s not complicated and works both ways.
Yup, my SO does that sometimes, especially for Marvel movies because I’m tired of them.
Everyone in here saying how fun going to the movies alone is. Idk. I’ve done it before, it was pretty lame. I’d way rather go with a friend and have someone to talk about the movie with. Going all alone sucks.
It is normal. Just do it. People who have an issue with this are creating their own problems. It’s a YOU problem.