To me, it’s simple. The first person, I can explain to them why saying “tranny” and “fag” is bad and hurts the shit out of me, and have a good conversation with them and feel confident that by the end of it, they will have learned something, be a lot more careful around those words and even perhaps, not use them at all.

Whereas, the other person, sure they don’t call me slurs, but if they were to phrase things differently and actually do call me a “tranny” and a “fag”, I know for a fact that trying to talk to them about why that is terrible would be a fucking waste of my time that would only end up with them explaining to me in the most backhanded way why they are justified in calling me such.

I’ll take poorly worded but earnest support over the thinly veiled disdain of polite society people any day.