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Cake day: August 1st, 2024

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  • Kind of a similar-ish question. I recently moved my 401k from an old employer to my personal account. All my money is now sitting uninvested. As much as I’d love to hire someone to look over my accounts, I can’t really justify that at the moment. In the most basic way possible, can anyone suggest specific indexes, stocks, whatever the terminology is that I should or could invest my money into?



  • The only one I can guarantee is full-on actual yuri involving two girls exploring their feelings is Whisper Me a Love Song. I haven’t watched two of them, and the others ones I have watched might have super cute girl moments and some flirting, but I would not say they are yuri. I still think they are all worth watching, buuut just setting the right expectations.


  • I do understand your stance on this; the first rule does say women only… is it exclusive, oh definitely, but there are so many other communities that can support the same topics that are open to everyone. I think if the admins/mods of that community would like a space for women to talk to other women, we should just let them do their thing 🩷 I don’t think they are saying only women can like those things, but sometimes girls just want to have their own space (I’m one of those girls). Buut it’s a super new community, and they may rethink and adjust their rules!


  • That might be the case! It’s been super affordable for me vs the convenience of it all… and I’m currently unemployed and without insurance. I have too much dysphoria and trauma associated with pinning, so injections are a no-go for me. The patches that I am prescribed are just magic 🪄 They also have great discounts for labs, and goodrx super helps with the hrt costs.


  • I go through a service called Folx Health. They have been absolutely AMAZING for me. I would highly suggest anyone in the US to look into them. I had one video appointment, and that same day was picking up my HRT. Outside of labs once or twice a year, you’re only required to meet with them again annually for another video appointment. You can definitely setup more appointments and even use them for general care/pcp things - I just had one to get tretinoin prescribed to me. You can use insurance or not; I’m currently uninsured and paying out of pocket, and they have super reasonable prices. They can also provide lists and resources for different doctors if you choose to undergo any surgeries.


  • My body has always had trouble keeping on fat, and I was actually excited at the idea that my metabolism might change and help me gain some. I honestly haven’t noticed it slow down, BUT I can say that my breast growth definitely has not been impacted by this. I’ll also add that my eating habits are…less than ideal. I have a small breakfast around 11am and then a dinner of varying size in the evening (and usually some ice cream). I do try to get myself to snack and eat an additional meal, but it rarely happens as much as I’d like. Soooo, purely based on my experience, you should be okay 🩷 Just make sure to take a good multivitamin if you don’t have a super balanced diet!




  • Ahhh! I had a similar shift in mentality! Breast growth was probably the lowest thing on my list of desired changes. As my body, emotions, and mind started changing, my concerns/apprehension completely melted away. When they started to grow, it all just felt right and so normal. I think it also helped that I had a fairy built chest pre-transition, so as the muscle started to shrink and the fat started to redistribute, it wasn’t super noticeable or jarring. Now I’m in a headspace where I’m just excited to see how they change; if they get bigger, I’d love that, and if they don’t- that’ll make buying the clothes I like easier 🤭




  • When I moved over a few years ago, there were a few different services that could migrate playlists. I did remember some having a cap that you had to pay to increase, but I believe I eventually found one that let me move them all for free.

    One of the reasons I quit Spotify was that their shuffle seemed oddly weighted. It would try to detect songs that it thought I wanted to listen to and always prioritize those in the shuffle. Turning off its smart shuffle didn’t seem to help either 🤷‍♀️ I do occasionally find artists with the same name grouped together, but this is something I’ve seen them addressing in their patch notes. They are really on top of reported issues.




  • This would be amazing! I’m an audiophile, and my best equipment is all connected to my PC. I’ve kind of avoided the voice apps for phones because I’d rather use my normal mic and audio chain. As for OS - Windows. All this said, there’s a variety of software that can chart frequency, pitch, etc from an input (mic in this case), BUT I’d love dedicated software for voice training and will be following along with your development 🩷


  • Late 20s to early 30s. It was during lockdowns when I wasn’t interacting with irl society much - work was all remote, and all my interactions were online. I quickly realized that when I removed the pressure of having to conform to what I thought was expected of me, I was actually a completely different person. I started interacting with more queer people, especially trans individuals, and realized that there were a lot of parallels with how they felt about gender and all the other constructs of society which never really made sense to me. Honestly, I meant sooo many when I started FFXIV.

    The idea that I could decide how I wanted to identify and be perceived by people never really occurred to me.

    I had always disliked a lot of aspects about myself and tried to be as much of a ghost as possible. It rarely felt like I was living for me. As I slowly started to explore the things I truly liked - cute things, pink things, and soft things - I noticed my views of life started to brighten. I felt more excited about the things I was surrounding myself with, and I noticed people were interacting with me in a friendlier and warmer way. As I started to shine brighter, people around me started to shine brighter, too!

    All that said - why didn’t I just lean into identifying as NB or just fully ignore gender as a whole? I did initially, but about those things which I didn’t like about myself - so many happened to be T driven. Thick body and facial hair- no thank you, thick/rough/acne prone skin- please go, body composition- wasn’t really liking how it fit in the dresses/skirts I wanted to wear, overall mindset and emotions (this changed a lot), etc. Obviously, all these things have taken time and additional effort, but it all feels so fulfilling.

    I was initially worried about how people in my life would react/treat me, but I decided to start always putting my own feelings and desires first… no one else was going to. I will acknowledge that it’s bit easier for me to do that- my circle is incredibly small, I’ve been single for 5-6 years, I was working remotely, and I kind of rarely leave my home.

    My question to people - if you had an irl character creator, how would you design yourself? How would you choose to move in the world if there were no expectations?