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Cake day: June 5th, 2026

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  • Are you saying that some people’s lived experience doesn’t support their own existence mattering? If so, (1) talking to loved ones or a therapist might change that perspective, and (2) if that doesn’t work or isn’t an option, you can find a purpose for yourself. If you find something you believe in, or something that you’re glad exists, that you can contribute to even if only in a small way, you’ll probably find yourself seeing that your existence can and does matter after all. Even just answering people’s questions on Lemmy makes a little bit of a difference. People commenting here have helped me; even if I stopped believing all humans inherently matter, I’d say all the anonymous people who have helped me and others with our questions matter.




  • here’s a better question to ask: why should anyone need to justify their own existence?

    Who really benefits from that mindset? Who benefits from systems that force people to justify their existence in some way? I’m thinking about economics, and politicians making welfare recipients jump through hoops that cost money more than they save to “earn” basic necessities, and the implications for people with less-understood disabilities and older adults with dementia and people who are marginalized in other ways, and how all of this fits into a world where tech companies want to replace everyone’s jobs and hobbies and relationships with AI. (Granted, I doubt LLMs will ever be reliable enough to fully replace humans in some things, and some people will always want relationships with real humans, but there’s plenty of other tech being developed out there too.) Everyone on Earth might have an “unjustified” existence as far as society is concerned someday, if we continue with this mindset.

    To answer the second part of your question, though, about why should we care: because we are all fellow humans. I think others here have answered that part in more depth.



  • Lots of good advice here, but I’ll add: try to enjoy the good things about your life right now.

    Enjoy your current relationship with your parents. Figure out something you can contribute back to them (cooking? yardwork? just good conversations between adults? You decide.) Enjoy being around other young people when you can. Enjoy whatever hobbies you have, or maybe pick up a new one if you don’t have one right now.

    It’s hard world right now, harder in many ways than it was for the past generation or two. You feel like you’re running behind because you’re comparing yourself to a standard designed in a different world, a standard which may have problematic even back then. The “typical young adult” lifestyles portrayed in TV shows, for instance, were never realistic. You’re one of many people in this situation. You aren’t running behind.




  • I think a lot of people learn to be satisfied with age and experience, and you’re getting closer to that every day. You’ve now experienced that the grass isn’t fully green on either side of the stable life vs. wild life line. Now you know that both sides have tradeoffs. After a lot of those kinds of experiences, you come to appreciate things you couldn’t appreciate before.

    It also helps to think of life in terms of seasons. In this season, you might feel a lot of spontaneous adventures and freedom and social connections, so enjoy them while they’re here in spite of the instability. In the next, you might have more peace and find yourself really savoring the small, quiet moments.

    Also, literally touching grass sometimes helps. Not kidding. Just try taking a few minutes every day to be present in the moment somewhere outdoors, somewhere with grass or a tree or some other kind of plant nearby. If you’re in a city, maybe go sit on a park bench for a few minutes each day or walk around your block. If you have a backyard, hang out there for a few minutes in the evenings. It might feel pointless or awkward at first, but over time it will turn into a nice moment that you enjoy each day. After a while it’s an instant satisfaction boost, particularly on sunny days.









  • Thank you so much for taking the time to put all of this together! You’re awesome.

    I think for my purposes, Obsidian is probably private enough (I don’t share my PC with anyone), but I am interested in exploring more FOSS stuff. I don’t really mind a lack of features/plugins or a dated interface at the moment. My bigger concern is that CherryTree and a lot of other indie FOSS stuff seem geared toward people who are more tech-savvy than I am (the website and download pages seem figure-out-able for me with a little work, but don’t exactly have great UX for non-techies). I’m not a developer or IT person, just a regular office worker type who has become very frustrated with “AI” and big tech companies, but I’m trying to learn more about how things work anyway. I might end up trying both Obsidian and CherryTree.