One thing really annoying that I’ve noticed working in the white collar industry is that some people get a free pass all the time on important things, just because they have kids. For example, in a different team who often has to step away during business hours and becomes unreachable, simply because they have kids. There’s always some sort of excuse with them. Have to go pick him up from the bus stop, have to go pick him up from school because they got in trouble, dance recital during the middle of the day, always something. But when it comes to ordinary normal people who don’t have kids, it feels like there’s a lot more scrutiny. Why do you need a doctor’s appointment in the middle of the day? Why do you need to go pick up a prescription at lunch time, like why can’t you work through lunch?
But also, when it comes to employment, it feels like there’s a lot of preferential treatment for people with children. Oh that person has kids / children! They need the job a lot more. They have a little girl! Clearly they need it more than the the person who has a disabled spouse, because kids are way more important than an adult dependent! We can’t fire this person, they have kids! Let’s choose someone who doesn’t have a family. Like, stuff like this. Why is there so much preferential treatment to people who have children? Is this some sort of utilitarian thing? The least number of people affected?
I would assume cos as humans with empathy for our children hard wired into us to the point that we will kill to protect them (insert some quote about natural selection here). As humans with empathy we can empathise with how that feeling is for others (a feeling a non parent can never understand). As social pack animals we are programmed to ensure the future of the tribe thus the collective protect the young even if the young dont nessasarilly have ur genes. Thus these feeling hardwired into us by evolution may manifest in the behaviour u have witnessed.
Ie. Without well adjusted and cared for children our society is fucked. And most people realise that.
Sadly I’d say that most of those who have children today don’t have a clue about how to raise such kids, because they’re neither well adjusted nor cared for. Some self-centered societies are much worst than others in that respect.