On the one hand, god yes I would love it
on the other, I already kinda see 21 yr olds as children and ick now. so like, I imagine the top end of someone who could see me as attractive is what, 35? I mean that’s technically a woman who is older than me, but 35 is not an “older woman” like c’mon.
Get a job or hang out at a wine bar. Tons of older women looking to have a nice night. Only place ive had more older women flirt with me was screenings for magic mike.
I love older women I hope to become one someday!
to take advantage of me? 🤩
I’m a 29 y/o woman and I have two 22 y/o friends who are into me, but it feels kinda wrong to even flirt with either of them. I know 7 years isn’t a huge gap, but I don’t really want to fill whatever caretaker/lover role they’re yearning for. They’re adults, but are just lacking a kind of independence and sense of direction that most people find in their late 20s.
As it is, I already kinda take care of them and am their safe space whenever we go to parties or stuff. I don’t mind being the big sister in that way, but mixing stronger emotions or sex into that dynamic seems wrong.
I’m 40 and while I’d never be in a committed relationship with someone who’s your age even, much less 22 if it was just sex, I don’t see why not. I wouldn’t pursue them because of said age gap but if they made it clear they were a consenting adult who was interested independent of my effort towards them… I’d be up for it
I guess yeah, I wouldn’t take advantage but I would be willing to indulge someone
Thank you for your service 🫡
Yeah, that’s a very big age gap at that point in life. Most people in their early 20s still lack adult life experience, even if they’re legally adults.
A friend of mine dated then married a girl who’s 4, almost 5 years younger than us. They started dating when she was 22, IIRC. She’s a bit… special… but even ignoring that it was always like dealing with an ignorant teenager or a petulant child. Such a huge turn-off. Dunno if she matured any over the last 6 years — sure hope so, for the sake of their future children — but considering all she does in life is travel and sit at home, I’m kind of doubtful. I guess trauma-bonding took over that relationship, because oof, nobody has ever had anything nice to say about her.
A friend of mine dated then married a girl who’s 4, almost 5 years younger than us. They started dating when she was 22, IIRC. She’s a bit… special… but even ignoring that it was always like dealing with an ignorant teenager or a petulant child. Such a huge turn-off. Dunno if she matured any over the last 6 years — sure hope so, for the sake of their future children — but considering all she does in life is travel and sit at home, I’m kind of doubtful. I guess trauma-bonding took over that relationship, because oof, nobody has ever had anything nice to say about her.
It’s a little funny that you acknowledge the age gap and that your friend is taking advantage of someone younger than themselves (in context of the larger conversation happening here), but then go on to blame the young person in the relationship for being a petulant child.
I have never once felt serious romantic interest in someone who wasn’t almost exactly my age. I guess I’ve always craved being equals in every way possible? I’m not trying to yuck other people’s yums, but I don’t see the appeal of age gaps personally.
What about a non-serious romance?
Non-serious isn’t my style I guess. There’s nothing wrong with casual relationships, but they aren’t for me.
I like to refer to Dan Savage’s Campsite Rule for any age gap relationships, serious or non-serious:
In any relationship, but particularly those with a large difference of age or experience between the partners, the older or more experienced partner has the responsibility to leave the younger or less experienced partner in at least as good a state (emotionally and physically) as before the relationship. The “campsite rule” includes things like leaving the younger or less experienced partner with no STDs, no unwanted pregnancies, and not overburdening them with emotional and sexual baggage.[12]
Pack out all trash. Leave no trace.
You want an older top/dom to pretend to take advantage of you tbh
I mean, yeah, that’s the point of kink. Doing play pretend versions of unsafe things, in an actually safe space.
Not that you’re wrong to point it out, it’s very much not widely understood.
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as a woman old enough to have a problematic age gap with a consenting adult, it doesnt really feel like someone that much younger than me is really an adult yet. theres a depth of life experience thats missing that honestly makes it not that much fun even if theyre really enthusiastic. like, older women willing to take advantage of younger women arent likely to be the mature well adjusted women who will have mind blowing sex with you and teach you lots of stuff.
Maybe they’re turned off by your spelling?
Other than no apostrophes, it’s actually all spelled correctly. It’s the grammar that’s atrocious.
