I feel badly for the lots of men that believe their life is to please women.
this group includes me
While 100% in the don’t fake it camp, please also remember us men are not mind readers and our equipment works different. Much like with cooking and cleaning, if you don’t tell us what we are doing wrong or better yet show us the right way, we are going to assume we did our part cause we got the result we wanted and you didn’t complain or ask for something different.
Fake orgasm is very counter-productive, even when it’s used as a feeling preservibg way of saying “I’m tired and bored, let’s just finish you off and go back to watching tv”
What I happened to notice with different girls as a guy is that for many, of not most, telling/showing the right way is a turn-off and having something the right way without showing first is a source of tremendous excitement.
With that said, we, men, are still not mind readers, and women really do have it very differently, so some common sex education, while useful, can only cover the basics, and even they are not universally applicable.
telling/showing the right way is a turn-off
I don’t think OP is talking about a PowerPoint presentation (unless that’s your kink, you do you), but more like some verbal cues “faster” “don’t stop” “a little lower” etc. If the guy has a reasonable amount of attentiveness and experience, he should be able to get her 80% of the way there. Also, little cues like that can be hot as well because we know she’s into it and stuff.
I dunno man, most women in my experience have all really appreciated (and as much said out loud) that there was communication. Sure, if it happens without any prompting or guidance, it’s mind blowing because it feels like there’s something naturally special going on, but that’s a pretty rare thing. Sexual compatibility can be tweaked and guided, for sure, but then again there are also people who just don’t have it together.
There are also just toxic people that want perfection with zero work. But that’s not how shit works, even if they can be a vocal group
Also a woman’s ability to cum varies HIGHLY from person to person.
Funnily enough, this is the case for men too. Hence all the “this has never happened to me before” memes on TV shows in the 90s and 00s.
Funnily enough, your wife said the same thing.
I’ve noticed a pretty direct correlation with a woman’s habit of masturbating and her ability to orgasm during sex. The chick I was seeing just before I went back to college, I’d believe it if you told me that I’ve played with her clit more than she ever has TO THIS DAY, and guess what? She never once gave me any suggestion on what she wanted me to do, I’m sure because she genuinely didn’t know.
I’d say day to day as well, depending on many factors (stress, energy level, hormones, etc.)
Just communicate and see what’s working or not, or if anything works at all. It will make the sex better for everyone involved.
Yes! Also, tell your male friends to communicate and actively ask what feels good!
Edit: Also
Yes! This does wonders!
Lmao
Or rather: don’t fake orgasms, make sure he knows if there’s something he can do better.
Constrictive criticism and pointers is how we get better, especially at doing the things YOU specifically like.
If he can’t roll with that, though, kick his ass to the curb. Maybe point and laugh at his weird penis first 😛
Constrictive criticism and pointers is how we get better
If he can’t do it, flip him over and do it yourself.
Good advice!
Also, good save on the quality shitposting by including the body shaming.
Yeah, there was a distinct danger of being too wholesome and helpful for a shitpost community for sure! 😄
Was with you until you thought pointing and laughing would help make someone see the light
With you in principle and updooted you, but:
That one was A) a joke and B) a joke about shaming those unwilling to learn for not being willing to learn. Not about shaming them into being better in any way. What do you think I am, a Catholic parent?
Nah, I just wanted to make sure it was obvious to others that part was a joke. I updooted you in a comment you made lower in the comments. I figured you were a person with good intent making a comment involving passion. Something I direly need to learn from. Controlling my responses hasn’t always been great. As for the Catholics, I can’t speak much of anything about them I suppose anymore. I left their following more than 20 years ago now, and I hope they grow better as I don’t think they are going to disappear any time soon. I also need to give up drinking, but for sake of words, I say let’s drink to a better future.
I quit drinking myself 5 years ago as of last month, but since I have some good nonalcoholic beer right here, I’ll drink to all of that! 🍻
Well let’s hope it’s a chase I stay 5 years behind you until our end days. : )
Constrictive criticism
Freudian slip? But hey if that’s what you’re into then good for you 😉
Otherwise? Yeah, come on, don’t settle for shit sex, if you can teach your partner to be better then why not? Don’t be too afraid to say something.
Freudian slip? But hey if that’s what you’re into then good for you 😉
Actually a happy autocomplete accident, but yeah, gonna leave it as is because you made it fun 😄
Otherwise? Yeah, come on, don’t settle for shit sex, if you can teach your partner to be better then why not? Don’t be too afraid to say something.
Yeah, please. Why be deceptive? It serves no one.
Better yet, take responsibility for your own pleasure. Play an active role in getting what you want out of the act. Communicate. Why wouldn’t you?
I’ve heard from a lot of women that a portion of men take any attempt to provide suggestions as a direct attack on their masculinity
Not just men, I’m a lesbian and I’ve experienced this with women too. Some people are really sensitive to constructive criticism especially during intimacy.
especially during intimacy.
Well that does make sense when you think about it. That’s when you’re at your most vulnerable. I personally wouldn’t mind because lust overpowers all of my other emotions during sex lmao. Though for some people, I think it would be best to talk about it after the deed is done.
Yup that’s definitely why. And a lot of people other than the hyper sexual have a lot of insecurities around sex even if they didn’t grow up in a culture that made it taboo.
This happens when providing suggestions to anyone about anything when you’re dealing with an insecure person.
Well that’s just two reasons not to date them since those guys all probably listen to Tate.
Ya you just suck at communicating. It’s probably why most of your relationships fail.
Most men are a lot more receptive to input than many women give us credit for. For the mist part, men do not want to be known as a terrible lay. If your man doesn’t think he needs pointers, get someone else to treat you right.
Wait, we’re supposed to be involving mist? Women just get more and more complicated…
Some guys think of sex like a video game I’m sure XD
I’m now picturing those 80s games where you had to hit the keys rapidly (and in the correct sequence) to make your character run, but with pelvic thrusts…
The problem is that the exceptions can actually be dangerous
People need to spread the word about good, safe partners better.
But jealousy exists, so everyone else has to gamble with their lives for a date/orgasm.
Can’t fuck? More like don’t.
Because being a jerk is more fun than sex?
It’s a shitpost youre not allowed to bring logic into this
I didn’t even read the community title. Sorry. My mistake.
As a femdom fan, I fully support this idea
Honestly, yeah! If it’s not going to happen, fine, that’s life sometimes. If I’m doing something that doesn’t work for you, or you want something different, how tf am I supposed to know that? I’m not psychic ffs. If you fake an orgasm, you get what you deserve.
Lol, you sound really angry. If you want to get better at this, you should probably remove your ego from the equation here and look at it objectively.
I see a lot of anger from both genders these days on social media. Take a step back from all of that and date people who are not into all that shit. It will turn your brain into mush. :)
Social media is harmful for you. It’s become even worse than the news now, since it’s actively targeting you with algorithms, trying to get you to be upset so you click around. It’s going to serve you the worst of humanity fighting eachother.
Just touch grass.
Psst… your projection is showing…
More like your own, mate. :)
No u
Or you could teach him. Better for both of you.
Right? My immediate thought was just that is is awful communication and everyone would have a better time if they just said something in either scenario
Not everyone has the patience for that
Edit: this reaction has me weak as hell 😂🤣
If you aren’t willing to learn and grow with your partner you should stick to masturbating
Oh and that is fine but then you have to ask yourself if you want to have a partnership with bad sex. If not, break up, or “teach” by communicating what you want, what is good and what is bad. There is no alternative, accept bad sex, break up, teach.
(Technically, you could let them have sex outside of the partnership to study, but… Well, not my cup of tea)
Skill issue
Well, let me practice.
I’m lucky my wife orgasms easily from PIV makes me feel like a champ but really it’s just her body that makes it happen.
I’m in the “multiple orgasm” camp but it has happened a couple times where I’m not really in the mood (stress etc) or the sex has gone on too long (chafing, boredom) where there’s not a specific thing my husband should start or stop doing long term and I don’t want to impact his experience. It’s only been like 3 or 4 times in the last 15 years.
PIV (Pontoon Implantment Vehicle)
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Here’s the psychic cure, actually fake orgasms don’t exist, they are all real. If she tells you she faked it, it means she’s lying to you, and now she’s just trying to hurt you, probably because you didn’t do the dishes last night.
There, the whole fake orgasm thing, solved forever.
I always think of Kramer saying he faked orgasms, LOL. 🤣