I’ve had female friends and I’ve had male friends but for some reason I’ve noticed that females are more intimate and close to there friends then males are. Is this true for all male friends?
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Straight people even today live with the fear of being perceived as gay so there very closed off and distant.
everyone suffers in a global system of torture. even the beneficiaries
Relatable
A system of oppression can only be a system of oppression and nothing else. It can oppress some less than others, but it can’t ever free anyone.
Careful spraying those broad generalizations everywhere, you’re making a mess.
Their* than*
I’ll keep that in mind
IDK if it’s an easy way to remember or not, but the way I think about it is then relates to time, than relates to a comparison.
Their relates to ownership. There relates to direction. They*'re* relates to describing (that’s probably the easiest as the apostrophe tells you it is a shortened version of two words, “they are”)
To actually answer your question though I can only relate to my personal experience and say no, as a man the men I know don’t express emotion that well and we aren’t that “close.” The women I’ve known tend to be much closer to their friends, but my experience is limited there.
I’m in my thirties and when I compare my friendships to my wife’s, I must say that women are more intimate with each other. They hug and cuddle. My friends and I don’t really do that. I only hug my friends when I feel they need it.
No. Next question.
What does the moon taste like?
Creme Cheese. Next Question.
do you think my cat is cute?
Yes, cats are by definition cute. Next question.
Only on Tuesdays. Next question.
Not true for all but true for most.
However let’s make a difference between being close and being intimate; females are usually more intimate than males or at least open up more quickly on personal topics. Gay/bi males are also like this.
As for closeness though, I don’t think there is much of a difference between sex/gender/sexual orientation. I’ve found bros sticking together and backing up each other the same as girls do if not more.
I’m generally more open with female friends than male friends. There’s one friend that I’ve become more open with but that’s because we’ve been friends for over 15 years. Growing up taught me that showing emotion was weak and not what I was supposed to do. I was very sensitive as a kid and learned to hide and intellectualize my feelings rather than feel them
If not shamed then sometimes more intimate
No. Not in my experience anyway. That said, furries are a whole different breed. Furries love sharing physical intimacy. Cuddle piles in the furry community are a real thing.
“furries are a whole different breed.”
I see what you did there
100% intended. But seriously, the furry community is the place where you’ll get guys being just as cuddly as gals, if not moreso, depending on your orientation.
Women being intimate openly remains more socially acceptable than men doing it, at least presumed heterosexual men.
I have noticed a shift in the last five years and more of the (heterosexual) men in my social circles have openly hugged me more enthusiastically than they used to.
I have become more comfortable being affectionate in public in general, but that’s about becoming more comfortable with myself, rather than a matter of what’s assumed to be socially acceptable of the various genders. I’m definitely falling into the category of life’s too short and I’ll be dead sooner than I’d like to admit, so here I am, motherfuckers. Deal with it.
Well, I hug friends to greet and show compassion. But it doesn’t really change anything, in terms of closeness or intimacy for me. Maybe others feel like that too and don’t really engage in physical intimacy. I do hug female friends in comfort too, but that’s very awkward for me. It seems to help them though.
I feel better when my personal space is respected, I don’t really want hugs when I’m feeling down. I do like hugs when I’m feeling comfortable though.
I think it’s interesting that you are comparing “men” and “girls” as opposed to either boys and girls or men and women.
No judgement. Just thought that was interesting.
They all mean the same thing basically
They’re not the same thing, though. If you use infantilizing language with people of one sex until they’re 40, yeah, people are going to notice that and think it’s weird. I used to have a ton of unexamined behaviors like that before I worked on it a fair amount, and yeah, I was pretty lonely back when…
I don’t think most people care. Granted, maybe it’s the dysphoria speaking, but I love it when someone calls me “girl” and I’m 30. None of the people I know care. If anything it feels more familiar to call someone a girl or a boy than a man or a woman. The latter two feel very “official”, while the former feel casual.
Also I’ve absolutely heard girls call a group of men, “boys”. Like, one of the white suburban mom stereotypes is to call her husband and his friends, “the boys”. Like, “hey honey, how was hanging out with the boys” or “oh, he’s off with the boys doing who knows what”.
I share your sentiment, whenever one of my aunts calls me a '“good-looking boy,” my mid-30s heart warms up.
In addition, we will all mature only when we realise that we never stop being children in one way or another. Plus why would anyone want to give that up? One of the few nuggets of genuine joy and curiosity that’s still left for us to own.
I think what you and @mossyfeathers@MossyFeathers@pawb.social are picking up on is that youth-coded descriptors are often terms of endearment. They’re often used flirtatiously and towards people of whom you feel protective.
Conversely, adult names imply responsibility. Is it a problem to describe men in a way that implies responsibility and women in a way that implies protectiveness? Not necessarily.
I just think this stuff is linguistically interesting. I think it’s more grammatically typical to use equivalent terms to create parallel construction when comparing the sexes. Again, no judgment is intended.
Idk, you think this woman’s use of the word “girl” is likely contributing much to her lonliness? I mean that’d probably be true if she was a man because people would automatically assume the worst, but in my experience women can usually get away with saying “girl” without anyone caring.
My friends’ humour is extremely homoerotic and we constantly simulate gay sex (as a joke)
You tell yourself that
Same here. But I wouldn’t call that intimacy in the same sense as he was referring to in females. Me and my boys don’t cuddle
Oh we also cuddle all the time and then someone tries sucking someone’s dick (cause it’s funny)
Remember to say ‘no homo’ before pulling out or it doesnt count
Of course, hugging, touching, sensitive subjects. ima give a homie a kiss if we’re hyped up enough.
Girlfriends have naked bubble make out pillow fights. Guys do not.
Can confirm. There are a few web sites that have video evidence. Google it, and thank me later.
No. I think men and women express intimacy to each other in different ways.
