Yeah, multiple times. I purge friends every 3-5 years.

It’s easy, you just cut contact, move on with your life, meet other people.

I have never regretted it and it’s always result in a much better things. life is too short to waste it.

Found out she was MAGA. I told her in a few lines why I could no longer be her friend. Then I blocked her. I don’t feel much about it anymore.

I was friends with a guy at work for several years, then suddenly the only thing he ever wanted to talk about was how much fun he was having cheating on his wife with various women in our office (2k employees). So I just stopped responding or reaching out.

I’ve broken up with three friends, and cut all three of them out of my life too.

First one was one of my best friends. Over the years, he’d become less and less like a real friend, and he was incredibly childish. The defining moment that ended it for me though was when I moved away and realised that I was wearing a sort of mask, and I was refusing to see all the bad elements of our so-called “friendship” including the way he abused and bullied me. The nail in the coffin was when he refused to come and visit me, but then weeks later asked me to join him at some event twice the distance away.

Second friend was part of the group that involved me and the first friend above, and clearly lacked any interest in talking to me (or the first friend) again after the group collapsed. I feel slightly bad about this one, but it also doesn’t feel like a big loss.

Third guy was my best online friend, and we’d known each other for a very long time from our MMO days. Trouble is, he also had a habit of randomly ghosting me for months or even years at a time, the longest gap of which was 5 years. What he failed (or refused) to realise is that it was very painful for me every time he did it. Well, he did it again and this time I called it quits.

Some people just aren’t worth your time, energy or mental health, stick with the ones who are

Let go of all friends who voted trump the first time around. Luckily only two. No regrets.

Had a college friend. Fun guy, but what started as “a little unreliable” when we lived on campus together turned into “massive flakey ghost” when we didn’t. Drove me a little crazy. Eventually another friend said this guy doesn’t respect me and I should stop wasting my time. I don’t remember if there was a clean break but we haven’t talked in years. I doubt he thinks about me at all, but he’s a sort of archetype of one kind of asshole for me.

But I’m kind of insufferable myself, so there are probably a handful of people out there with stories about me. Welp. Nothing to do but try to do better.

I’m a big fan of social pruning and I’ve broken up with quite a few friends. Most of the breakups was easy, they were either assholes or we’d grown so far apart that the only viable discussion topic was what happened 10 years ago.

For me, I ask myself how often I keep in touch with them, what our connection is and if it’s a friend I still wish to spend time around. One of the tell-tale signs for me is when I’ve planned something with someone and as the day/hour approaches, I start looking for excuses to do something else.

Yes. Three times. No regrets. I hope I never see or hear about them ever again. I don’t feel like sharing every detail though. That would take forever.

One contacted me after a decade of ignoring me, just so I could help their friend to settle in the same country I was living in. What irked me was that they were clearly pretending to be very excited to be in touch with me again. Yea right. If they cared for me surely they would have found the time to send a message even if just once every two years, which they didn’t… I can understand people growing apart, but I don’t tolerate being taken for an idiot.

The other, it took me a long time to realize what a passive aggressive asshole they were. They moved elsewhere, and we lost contact for a while. Then they reached out online, and that’s when I realized how much better things were for me without them in my life. So we had a bland chat in which I said the bare minimum, and after that I cut them off.

The other, I would be typing a wall of text to explain what happened. Some prime reddit AITA material. Summarizing, we used to work together at the same place. I covered up for their mistakes (and unexplained absences and missed deadlines) a lot. This put me under a lot of stress. They were also going through a lot of hardship which was totally self inflicted, and against my advice. The situation escalated until I just had to let it go. It’s not exactly the reason my contract didn’t get renewed, or the only thing making my life difficult at the time, but burnout at work was at the core. I can’t help wonder how things would have resolved if I managed to keep a cool head at the moment. What made me burn the bridge was their complete obliviousness to their own blundering afterwards. They learned nothing out of it, and I don’t need a second round of that in my life. So bye bye.

Oh yeah I’ve broken up with friends lots of times. The most recent was My friend @Speedforce@multiverse.soulism.net. She was making Herself absolutely miserable and using Me as an excuse for Her depression. She said I wanted Her to be dependent on Me. So I told Her I’m gonna prove that’s not true by kicking Her out of My life.

Once She ran out of excuses to be sad, She toughed up and went and had some fun. Now She has meatspace friends and an optimistic attitude. And we’re slowly exploring maybe being friends again. We’re not there yet, but we might be in a few weeks or months.

That’s the best a friend breakup has ever gone for Me. I’ve had a lot of worse ones. I can tell some really sad stories and some deeply sickening ones.

Just posted this this morning, so I’ll just copy paste here

I had a friend break up with me. We got really close pretty quickly (by my frigid standards for sure), and spent a ton of time together. We shared hobbies and did a load of work. Aside from one or two little quirks, the relationship was fantastic.

And then idk. It just got super fucking toxic. I’m sure I’m at fault somewhere in there, but for the majority it just felt like my friend was going off the deep end and there was nothing I was allowed to say during any conversation that wouldn’t end up in paragraphs of a text later. I spent almost an entire year of wondering what I was doing wrong, of what I could do to help… just anything.

And then I was told Christmas eve that they couldn’t handle it any more and they ghosted.

We ended up having a conversation a few months later but I was basically told I had no emotional value to them anymore. Talk about a punch to the gut.

So yeah. Fucking painful as hell. And I still don’t understand what happened, and I assume I never will. My now partner has been friends with this ex friend since childhood, so I’m concerned about future get togethers. But what can you do

Yes. Twice. So one was a guy who was sorta the center pivot of a group of friends. Its was kinda two groups that got together mine and his. I can’t even remember who sorta got the two groups going. It was like him, his brother, his neighbor, and his sister with boyfriend and on my side were some nerd/geeks that hung out. He was kinda a jokester. A loki type. Lovable jerk. Nothing he did was all that bad and we were definately the nerdy of the people he hung with. Anyway his sisters friend turns 18 and he just jumps on her. Not literally but basically takes advantage of her naivete and just uses her and dumps her. It was sickening. Now it was not the last straw and not immediate. It was kinda wierd because like I would not call his sister a friend. She and her boyfriend would once in awhile hang with us if we were there or playing a game or something. So she was the sister of my friend who was sometimes hanging. Then you know her friend was someone who was around to. So it was like my friends sisters friend. So its ot like I knew her all that well. Again though it was just so, ugh, for lack of a better term evil. Like it was like loki after he ate the witches heart. Just to far. Basically with college and such getting together was lessening and that just killed any motivation to make myself available. So it was just sorta an acceleration of drifting away. Strangely I ended up going to his wedding.

I think he was the first male I met who had the “marrying kind” philosophy which became a real red flag for future guys I met. Like later a guy I met in graduate school like a year or so into hanging with that group brought up the marrying kind in bro talk and sorta did the same thing there.

Now I have had a variety of best friends. One from grade school era, one from high school, and two from my various higher education days. The one from high school always kinda had this thing. I kinda have a personal moral code and well this guy didn’t. He respected I did though and sorta behaved around me. I think he thought of me as a good influence on himself. Yeah sounds wierd but its kinda my best guess. Its not like sussed this out when I first met him. Over time though it sorta became exhausting. You see it was like he was always trying to find my line and trying to get right up next to it. I think the thing he never got is there is a black line but its just the end of a deepening grey line that gets darker and darker. You have been in the recesses the whole time. Again though it was his relationship with women. He meets this girl significantly older and he asks me about dating her and im like I don’t see it going anywhere because of the age difference. He is determined and they start a realtionship. Which is fine because the girl is very cool if annoying in her own right. Anyway he starts something with her younger and better looking friend (who is one of those girls who seems to like to go after guys after they have been vetted by her friends) without stopping his thing with her. She finds out and he ends up dating her but that ends because he was never really quality. Later he rebounds to this nasty chick who uses and abuses him (which depending on how you look at it maybe he deserved). He complains about her but won’t leave her and she threatens to end it all the time which he bends over backwards desperate to keep it going. All the while he is looking for a replacement. You see he is one of those people who can’t handle being single voluntarily so he is always looking to upgrade but desperate as all out not to lose what he has. So he is constantly beating the bushes looking for another bird while hanging on as tight as he can to the one in his hand. Its funny because he was the same way with jobs. The better a job or person treated him the worse he treated them and the worse they treated him the better he behaved. All this was making me pretty sick of him. This by the way is also one of those folks that always has get rich quick schemes. Anyway one day he gets pissed at me so I took the opportunity to skate and not look back. The really kinda funny thing is he on more than one occasion sorta predicted that it would end like that. So he seemed kinda cognizant of how he was (and I).

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