• HexesofVexes@lemmy.world
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    Yep, that’s just how it is these days. Let me ask though, does it really matter?

    If the girls are afraid of the guys, that’s their problem, not yours. Stick the time into something else you enjoy, let nature run it’s course. Find a job you don’t hate, spend your money as you like, live a happy life without the anxiety of rejection.

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        Fun fact, by doing the above, you’ll end up meeting women who don’t feel that way and are relationship material, and plenty of acquaintances who think you “don’t count” because you’re “one of the good ones”.

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          you’ll end up meeting women

          Do I want to?

          I’m posing a broader question about society to clarify a general concern with no particular motivation, and you make it about meeting women. That suggests something about assumed motivations in these discussions.

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              The comic may be and so may the comment I was replying to. The question, however, isn’t: people may have more on their minds than the pursuit of women, eg, the state of humanity.

              Moreover, the comic is about multiple things. The man sees an invitation to meet women. The woman sees a warning.

              It makes as much sense to ask about this discrepancy, messages, norms.

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          who think you “don’t count” because you’re “one of the good ones”.

          Oh that’s cool, I know a lot of black people like that.

          “Wait what? Wdym that’s racist? But I should accept ‘one of the good ones’ when it applies to me? I’m too ND for this bullshit.”

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        Not overly much - society has “dysfunctioned” along perfectly well for millennia. It will continue to be dysfunctional for many more millennia.

        Better to enjoy your life and spite that dysfunction than to live under its heel.

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      We’re finally approaching some twisted semblance of equality via men becoming afraid of women in return ._.

      Men who took the lesson to heart:
      Ladies don’t want to talk to you.
      They don’t want you to approach them.
      They don’t want you to initiate social interaction.
      Men need to be less visible, less audible, overall less perceptible, because this coincides with them being less obnoxious.

      Instead of teaching them to act in less obnoxious ways, society taught them to act less–period.

      And so, I now see unironic posts showing up on social media of women asking each other (paraphrased),
      “Why don’t men ever talk to me anymore?”
      “Why don’t men ever approach me anymore?”
      “Even when I see men in public, they never even acknowledge me. Why are they ignoring me? What is going on?”

      A lot of folks heard the pleas of women wishing men would just leave them alone. And a fair proportion of the men acquiesced.

      I mean, yeah, SOME didn’t, and became even more obnoxious, but the chronically unfuckable bootlicking simps of the fascist grift are more miserable now than they’ve ever been; The few that “seem” “successful” are just poster children of survivorship bias, pied pipers leading the naive and highly suggestible to self-inflicted ruin.

      I have divested myself of this bizarre tragedy of errors. Humans are humans. I treat humans like humans. If other people project weird freaky intentions upon me while I’m JUST trying to mind my own gods damned business existing within line of sight and vague proximity, that’s THEIR skill issue. AT LEAST nonbinary asexual persons never get weird at me like the ones vested in all the maladaptive notions and festooned in toxic stereotypes… and it’s refreshing. Good riddance to all the outdated reproductive caste dynamics. Good riddance to the gilded cage of having to drag-perform whatever the fuck I was assigned at birth.

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        I’ve seen a lot of posts, articles etc with women making those exact complaints, and I always find them rather sad.

        It’s been made very clear that the majority of women don’t want to be approached most of the time, especially by someone they don’t know, and that’s fair enough. You need to accept that you’re the outlier.

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        The bitterly ironic part is that the men who took that to heart are the GOOD men, you know those that actually respect women and their wishes.

        The asshole men, don’t give a shit and keep wearing red hats and calling women FEMALES.

        The whole movement has backfired hard and made it harder for women to find nice guys 😐

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      I understand you but I want to continue being grossed out by the idea of people thinking I am a rapist. Purely because I don’t want to be desensitized to this subject.