If he didn’t just make fun of you to your face for liking the wrong things then he’s ahead of the dad curve
Relatable sadly
These kind of things really messes you up in the long term. My dad was always making fun of me for liking video games and it took me a long time to get rid of the idea that whatever I was interested into was not boring/weird/unusual by default.
Same. I used to get made fun of for my music taste, sometimes just based on the band name or album art. Developed a habit of hiding my interests from my parents and feeling ashamed when they found anything non-mainstream of mine.
Well I am about just a sad and relieved that I am not the only one who had this experience. Were you able to cope with it & heal ?
Also care to share a few artists/albums? In exchange i will namedrop bleed the future by archspire
Over time I learned to just own my weird tastes and not care what other people think, but I think that’s just something that comes with age. The music I got made fun of for was actually pretty basic, my dad was just disdainful of anything that wasn’t his music. The name “Racer X” just sounded “gay” to him, and I got shit for the album cover of Soul Asylum’s Grave Dancer’s Union because there’s two naked children on it. To make things right, I never make fun of my own kids for their weird shit, and I try to teach them not to criticize other people over meaningless things either.
I hope you’ve also been able to heal from your experiences.
Also, I just discovered Archspire about a year ago and I agree that Bleed the Future is an absolute banger.
Like way, way ahead of the curve. How is this a thing to complain about?
Do they have any idea how most parents are?
I don’t think they’re complaining
I mean, it may be intentional because ita a dad joke thing. Like calling them Nintendos.
My old man never really understood the stuff I liked (Battletech, D&D, Magic, Star Trek) but he knew they were important to me and that I wasn’t unhealthy over them, and that was good enough for him.
Actually he managed to work Star Trek into the stuff he taught me like classical physics and quantum mechanics.
This made me smile
He knew those things to teach you but didn’t like Star Trek? Was he a Star Wars fan?
I don’t think Star Trek is very hard sci-fi.
Edit: to say that, I don’t think an interest in physics will naturally lead you to space fiction. And I don’t think “space” is the natural conclusion of “physics.”
Compared to Star Wars, Star Trek is pretty fkin hard scifi.
Star Trek isn’t hard hard scifi, no, there’s a bunch of completely soft fantasy elements like the holodecks and whatnot, but compared to Star Wars, it’s still pretty hard.
I could see a person who reads and cares about scientific non fiction content might be easily bothered by how often reversing polarity solves the problem.
Some people just don’t like consuming fictional content as a passtime.
No, he was a physicist. So he used examples of warp drive and time dilation along with why there is a Heisenberg compensator in the transporter.
Honestly it makes me really sad how whenever I try to share anything I like with my family they always call it complicated and sometimes weird.
Who’s Rem?
Not ram I guess
Of course not. No one can afford ram.
You can if you can make do with Dance Dance Revolution 3
Re:Zero
Resident Evil Zero for the Gamecube?
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that’s a self burn lol
I just caught up after nearly a decade and this season is like: AAAAAAAAAH
Stories like these warm my heart so much
As a dad now with a trans son I so get it. I’m blessed in I know who and what I am. I will never “get” what’s going on in his head or understand what trans is or any of that shit. But I love him, I want him happy and I will defend whatever he decides to be until the ends of the world.
Note to everyone and self I use he/him because in my simple brain he has a dick he’s a boy. Like me he doesn’t give a shit because we joke about the old meme “I identify as an attack helicopter” and I tell people my pronouns are “dumb/ass” or if I’m being a dick “she/him”
Digressions aside. If it doesn’t hurt anyone, and it makes someone happy, just let them be happy.
I don’t know your kid or your relationship with them or anything, so I’m just speaking in generalities, but most trans people I know really appreciate being called by their preferred name and pronouns. If your kid is using certain pronouns with new people or with their friends that they are out to, it might be nice to give them a try. Maybe not, again I don’t know you both, but just because someone is willing to joke about pronouns doesn’t necessarily mean they don’t actually care about them. Seems like you really care for your kid and I’m sure that if they wanted to be referred to with new pronouns that you’d be able to figure it out. Wishing you both the best.
The most grounded response and thank you. I commented elsewhere but ultimately I’m big on providing the space to do what you feel is comfortable so in that I’m more of a watch and wait.
Yeah man you should really be using the pronouns your child wants you to use. I imagine that they have accepted that this is the best relationship they can have with you. They’re still your child and your unwavering support is important to building their self confidence regardless of whether they’re cisgender or transgender.
How much effort does it take to not use he/him though? Are you sure they’re just saying they don’t care so you don’t feel bad about it?
I dunno, obviously I don’t know you or your kid and you seem to be handling it much better than many would… It just seems weird to be so ambivalent to something so fundamental about your child.
I’ve had a good number of trans people in my classes over the years. I’ve frankly been shocked by the number of people who do not care if you guess their gender correctly. Obviously it isn’t the norm, but they are out there.
I can’t speak for everyone, but in my experience I’ll not express anything externally when property/improperly gendered, but I’ll still feel happy/sad when it happens.
Fair enough! I personally try to stick to preferred names and pronouns, but to err is human and I do make mistakes pretty often.
Yeah, and I don’t think any reasonable person will hold a grudge against a mistake.
Also worth noting especially with younger people they can’t disassociate online with offline.
You claim apathy, but you put more effort defending yourself then just being better toward you child.
I wont claim to know if it bothers your child to ‘joke’ about it. But have you ever asked?
Would it be Sailor Moons or Sailors Moon?
Sailor moons because there is only one, the other girls have different names
more than i ever got out of mine.
Same-ies.
