• eestileib@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    69·
    1 month ago

    I use a wheelchair a lot. I used to be shy about it and try to come up with a way to have the first time someone saw me be on my feet.

    Now I’m the other way around, I want prospective lovers to see me in my chair first. Learned that if they can’t get past that, it’s not gonna work.

    I’m meeting much nicer people. And I’m actually doing better at meeting people at parties.

    Crazy how being comfortable with a mobility device is more appealing than leaning on a cane with a pained expression on your face. 😲

    • Okokimup@lemmy.worldEnglish
      6·
      1 month ago

      Do you have advice for meeting people? My cousin is having to use a wheelchair now, and she says as soon as guys find out, they’re gone.

    • Zarobi@aussie.zoneEnglish
      5·
      1 month ago

      Were people generally accepting of your ambulatory wheelchair status? In my experience people assume that if I have a wheelchair I must be super-glued to it at all times, and make weird comments if I ever stand up

      • eestileib@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
        7·
        1 month ago

        Yeah, people have been super cool about it at furry stuff and kink stuff. But both of those scenes attract people who are able to understand that you can’t fit everybody in a box.

        • Enkrod@feddit.orgEnglish
          2·
          1 month ago

          Funny, because the kinkies and furries I know would love a chance to squeeze as many people as possible into the smallest space available and call that a good cuddle.

    • Remember_the_tooth@lemmy.worldEnglish
      33·
      1 month ago

      Partner: (in footie Grinch pajamas) We live in a cynical world, a cynical, cynical world, and we work in a business of tough competitors. I love you. You complete me. And if I just had…

      Me: (interrupting) Shut up. Just shut up…You had me at footie Grinch pajamas. You had me at footie Grinch pajamas.

  • BradleyUffner@lemmy.worldEnglish
    44·
    1 month ago

    Not going to lie. I would be SO attracted to that. I am so very into people that can be their genuine self without pretending to be what society expects.

  • TwoTiredMice@feddit.dkEnglish
    35·
    1 month ago

    We took it to the extreme. Our first date was a trip to another country with backpacks, a small tent, a bag of rice and one of those small gas stove. She cursed at me and the world on our first hiking trip, while sweating like a horse. She was in a terrible form and do not enjoy hiking trips.

    We had to shower in the lakes, and they were cold AF, so… I did not present myself from my best side…

    We also nearly died. But, we’ve been together for 10+ years now.

    We stress tested the shit out of our relationship on that trip.

    After our near death experience, we settled somewhere nice, but during that night we were hit by an hurricane and my tent broke, forcing me to stay up all night, holding it together, while she slept. It was a special date.

    • bitjunkie@lemmy.worldEnglish
      19·
      1 month ago

      You two sound like a couple of fuckin maniacs, thanks for taking each other off the market for the rest of us!

      • TwoTiredMice@feddit.dkEnglish
        8·
        1 month ago

        We are not normal, and don’t strive to be it either. We also don’t think any of us could find another partner, so we will most likely be off the market forever. You are welcome.

      • Shindo66@lemmy.worldEnglish
        3·
        1 month ago

        Holy shit maniacs. My wifes first time meeting my family we went to meet them at a state park campsite and the cabin didnt have room for us. We slept cuddled up freezing on two camp chairs facing each other. She was a trooper and we’ve been married 16 years tomorrow…

        • bitjunkie@lemmy.worldEnglish
          1·
          1 month ago

          Happy anniversary and I hope the same person was not on logistics for any family gatherings after that

    • Malica@lemmy.zipEnglish
      6·
      1 month ago

      That sounds so memorable. I’d rather have that than any “perfect” date.

      • TwoTiredMice@feddit.dkEnglish
        6·
        1 month ago

        Thanks. It was a really awesome trip, and we just got really close really early on, and we just knew at point, that we liked each other a lot. And we have some really funny and great memories from 6 days in the “wilderness”.

  • SkunkWorkz@lemmy.worldEnglish
    33·
    1 month ago

    good looking people look good no matter what they wear.

    Like a hot guy with a trilby hat and a Naruto tshirt can still pull game. While a ugly neckbeard in an expensive suit would still have a difficult time getting a single date.

    • rangber@lemmy.zipEnglish
      2·
      1 month ago

      Has the “neckbeard” considered personal hygiene, and more clean shaven before thinking about expensive suit?

      • Enkrod@feddit.orgEnglish
        5·
        1 month ago

        As an ugly ass fat beardo: There are (even conventionally attractive) girls out there that go for me. Personal hygiene and a good personality really do much of the work for what little success I have. And while I prefer the ugly ass comfy clothes I wear at home, the effect nice clothes have on my confidence absolutely helps.

        It’s still difficult finding someone. We’re all just monkeys in the end and no matter what good things you bring to the table, looking good on top of it absolutely does not hurt and nice clothes are part of that consideration just like hygiene and a sharp trim.

      • meekah@discuss.tchncs.deEnglish
        2·
        1 month ago

        While I get your point, beauty standards are still a thing, and can’t be fixed with personal hygiene.

  • Beth@piefed.socialEnglish
    6·
    1 month ago

    Ah yes, glasses. I guess that’s my problem! If only I could see without them I would know this.