• Frezik@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    As a pansexual man, men are the worst. If it wasn’t mandated by evolution, I don’t know why women would put up with us.

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      Ugh, casual sexism. Look at the bottom of the barrel, and judge an entire gender by the way those behave.

      A lot of guys, gay or otherwise, don’t think or behave like that. And by your own definition, you’re also the worst. Sucks to have that terrible self esteem, but don’t lump me up with your self-hating ass

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        Try an experiment: go on Fetlife and setup a profile as a fem. Start collecting DMs. It might be enlightening.

        And by your own definition, you’re also the worst.

        Yes, you’re very smart.

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          Open garbage can > Look in > Mostly garbage.

          How very insightful of you, mate.

          There are some amazing people in FetLife, and in Grindr too. But like I said before, looking at the very bottom of the barrel and judging a whole gender based on it, that is beyond stupid.

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            Funny how I never seem to have these issues with fems and non-binary people. Even the ones who grew up masc. In fact, most of the problems there are a direct result of really shitty behavior from men and trying to cope with it.

            Instead of going “not all men”, maybe try to point out shitty behavior? Maybe one day, we can get past all this.

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              I point out shitty behavior, no matter the source. Hence why I am pointing out your very shitty behavior, that you’re too biased to even comprehend.

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                  And you sound like someone who polices choices, swallow the onion whole, feeds the trolls AND takes ragebait at face value.

                  I truly hope you get to see the world and yourself with kinder, more reality based eyes one day.

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              The point is, if 10% of guys in a given population are unspeakably awful, that’s the 10% who you will hear from on a dating app. You don’t get that from fems because they are typically being pursued on all dating and social media apps, because we still largely hold to the cultural norm that men/masc presenting people are responsible for asking the other person out.

              It seems worse on Grindr because the majority of users are cis men-the very people who have been told since birth that it’s their job to pursue sexual connections. Of course that leads to poor behavior.

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        As a human being, human beings are the worst. If it wasn’t for our tendency to completely dominate our environments, I don’t know why the world would put up with us.

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    You guys actually get matches?

    Goddamn. Here I am in straight world with exactly one match in an entire year that wasn’t a bot.

    Eh

    Fuck it the apps are scams anyway

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      If you download Grindr, you too can have an inbox full of poorly lit bathroom dick pics and people asking you if you know where they can get hard drugs!

      It’s less a “dating” app, and more a way for “straight” men in denial of their sexuality to find dl fun.

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          A mix. You will get bombarded with the poor quality photos and “u party?” (Code for meth). But I’ve enjoyed some late night conversations about everything from anime to French philosophy, and met some nice men to have a good time with. Even have made some friends (and a few would self identify as “freaks”). You’ll meet everyone from closeted self hated conservative businessmen to van living hippies.

          It’s a very direct space. When someone asks “what are you looking for?” you don’t have to beat around the bush. If they aren’t interested, they’ll block and move on.

          The app is absolutely garbage though. The ads are some of the most obtrusive and obnoxious ads any mobile app has ever had.

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      Grindr doesn’t really have a “match” system. You can send a message to anyone whose profile you can see (unless/until they block you). Think of it less like a traditional dating app and more like an interactive billboard of horny people in your area.

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          Multiple answers to that question:

          • There are women on Grindr - in my experience, mostly trans women or m/f couples looking for a third. So men can find straight sex on Grindr, but it’s rare. Women are definitely a scant minority of the users.
          • There are plenty of “straight” men on Grindr. You’d have to ask them why - I usually block them.
          • The reason why dating apps marketed towards straight people don’t allow this kind of messaging (and the reason there aren’t more women on Grindr) is because women, generally speaking, won’t put up with the same kind of shit that gay men will. A straight dating app where men could send horny messages and dick pics to every woman they saw wouldn’t have any women using it.
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            The world lost untold weirdness when Craigslist took down their personals section, cause that’s where my down dirty girlfriends were getting the dick back in the day. You could go on and have your pick of dozens of guys in an hour. Generally they were real guys. Most were awful but they found some diamonds in the rough.

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          I met someone in the official XKCD channel. That person referenced a private server. Later I went to a LAN party where another attendee happened to be on that same private server. I figured that had to be significant and joined the server myself. Some months later, a fluke caused my face to be displayed on a webcam feed I had linked there. My now-wife saw it and proclaimed me cute.

          Really that was all it took, but she’s never since done anything that caused me to regret falling for her.

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    Why would the first one work on me. Do i have no self preservation instinct left.